I love this: a blog dedicated to promoting positive body image and self-esteem among women, called 5 Resolutions to Transform the Beauty and Fashion Industries. What are they? “Educate Ourselves. Educate Our Audience. Take Responsibility. Take Action. Stay Connected.”
As a blogger who writes about beauty and celebrities and all that’s shiny and pretty and ooh! but who also supports movements promoting self-esteem and realism in the beauty and fashion industries, I often try to pinpoint where and when I’m being hypocritical…and I’ll be honest, I get tripped up. I agree wholeheartedly with the Jezebel-led movement to stop bashing women over their looks…but to stop addressing looks altogether? That’s where I run into an ehhh grey area of discomfort. Does that mean I can’t comment on celebrity A looking especially squinty because of too much ill-placed Botox? Shouldn’t suggest ways that celebrity B could make her hair look sleeker by using a certain anti-frizz product? Must never speculate about what areas of her body MegaStar has had “done”? Or even (horror of horrors!) need to stop checking out pop star makeup and hair pictures all together? I mean, really, it’s all shallow, but is the goal to get us to stop noticing looks, period (never gonna happen), or to be kinder, more tolerant, and more realistic in the way we approach female beauty? I think it’s the latter–my view has always been that there’s nothing wrong with trying to look your best in an image-conscious society. Learning how to properly apply makeup and make the most of your hair is simply survival of the fittest, especially when you have news reports suggesting that prettier people get hired more easily, and that even babies prefer photos of more attractive, symmetrical faces.
In reality, I just don’t actually have an answer. It’s something I think about all the time, I can tell you that. I’m a lot kinder and gentler than I was in my early days of blogging, when I took pleasure in snarking on Tom Cruise, Sienna Miller, Britney Spears and company. Nowadays, I try not to say anything about a celebrity that I couldn’t say to their face—or that I wouldn’t say to my best friend. (“I love you, but please allow me to introduce you to mascara. Kisses!”) There’s enough negativity in this world—with a lot of the vitriol inexplicably spewing from fellow bloggers—and Jolie believes in peace, love and lip gloss, not schadenfreude.