Nadine Jolie Courtney http://www.nadinejoliecourtney.com Beauty, Travel, Royalty Wed, 22 Apr 2015 16:55:25 +0000 en-US hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=4.0.3 Get Thee to a Nunnery! (Newlyweds: Episode 7) http://www.nadinejoliecourtney.com/2015/04/newlyweds-episode-7-get-thee-to-a-nunnery/ http://www.nadinejoliecourtney.com/2015/04/newlyweds-episode-7-get-thee-to-a-nunnery/#comments Wed, 22 Apr 2015 05:46:49 +0000 http://www.nadinejoliecourtney.com/?p=13600 Loved this week’s episode so much. It made me happy that you guys got to see more of Erik, pulling back the veil on his story and childhood. There was so much good stuff that you didn’t get to see–so much about his strength, his grit, his determination, his self-sufficiency, and the incredible way he pulled himself out of a bad situation that would have hobbled most people–but it was, at least, hinted at. He’s a good egg, you guys. The best.

When we tell people that his mother is a nun, the answer is usually the same: “Wait, what? How??”, followed by jokes about randy priests. Truth is, she was in a bad marriage, seeking more from life, and found a convent that spoke to her: the Society of St. Margaret in Duxbury, Massachusetts.

Now, my favorite movie of all time is The Sound of Music. I love me some nuns. But I didn’t know what to expect heading to the convent. I was thinking maybe cloisters, incense, frowning Mother Superiors?

No, nope, nein.

Sisters of St Margaret convent Duxbury Massachusetts

What I found were smiling, happy faces, the most gorgeous Kennedy-esque Massachusetts compound on the water, and an adorable dog named Penny wandering around the main house.

There was even singing! (But it was Evensong in the Chapel–not, you know, “How Do You Solve a Problem Like Maria?”)

My other noteworthy moment of the episode was my couple-cam confessional on missing my mom. Last week, I wrote about the fears I was experiencing on becoming a mother: the idea that I wasn’t worthy of my daughter and that I needed to grow.

You saw one of my on-camera explorations of that: of the raw pain I felt when I thought of my mother’s last days. Of being a motherless mother, and the fumbling around in the dark that would require. I’m already a worrier, but being pregnant: it takes things to an entirely new level.

What if you don’t like me?…What if you get hurt? What if you feel alone? What if, what if, what if?

I wrote our unborn daughter a letter. Here’s a snippet:

What if you don’t like me? Of course, I’m sure (I hope!) you’ll love me. But what if our personalities don’t mesh? What if you feel misunderstood? What if my tough love approach is too much for you? What if I love you too much to give you tough love, and then I let you get away with things and it sends you down the wrong path? What if you vastly prefer your father to me, and I become the bad cop? What if you get bullied at school, and you don’t want to tell me because you don’t want to hurt my feelings, and you suffer in silence? What if you get hurt? What if you feel alone? What if, what if, what if?”

The worries come fast and furious, and I don’t expect they’ll ever stop.

But, increasingly, I realize that I’ll never be ready. And so paradoxically, I feel prepared.

Cannot WAIT to introduce you all to my little girl.

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Newlyweds: Episode 6 (It’s a Girl!) http://www.nadinejoliecourtney.com/2015/04/newlyweds-episode-6-its-a-girl/ http://www.nadinejoliecourtney.com/2015/04/newlyweds-episode-6-its-a-girl/#comments Wed, 15 Apr 2015 05:27:44 +0000 http://www.nadinejoliecourtney.com/?p=13594 It’s a girl!

Erik and I were both hoping and praying for a daughter, but we each had a dream that it was a boy (as did my father). Weirdly, I actually had a dream I was pregnant when I was pregnant, but four days before I discovered it.

I called my best friend and said, “I had a dream I was holding this little baby, and I loved him more than anything in the world, and I couldn’t stop staring at him and thinking how perfect and beautiful he was. I think it was your (newborn) son.”

She replied, “Um, maybe you were dreaming about your own baby. Are you sure you’re not pregnant?”

I realized the signs were there: missed period. Bloating. Mood swings. I paid extra attention the next few days, and once enough time had gone by that it felt significant, Erik and I took the test.

But it wasn’t a he. It was a she.

There are all sorts of wives tales floating around about girls: they steal your beauty. You carry high. You run hot. Hold a ring on a string over your belly and it will swing back and forth (instead of in a circle.) You’ll crave sweets instead of salty treats. And, if you’re having a girl, prepare yourself for major morning sickness.

I was all over the map.

I didn’t have a day of morning sickness. Seriously: not even one lick. I carried super low. And we tried the ring trick, and it swung wildly in a circle.

But I was also hot as hell, and craving sweets like I lived in a candy factory. (My baby was in danger of being named Sour Patch Courtney.)

Nadine Jolie Courtney pregnant baby girl

Before we learned the sex, if and when I thought about having a baby, I imagined a girl. But actually learning that it was a girl was weirdly terrifying: I pictured her looking at me, judging me, seeing me. I’d need to be better than myself. I’d need to mature. I’d have to be the kind of woman I’d want her to emulate. I desperately wanted to be worthy of her. Growth was required.

I’m so excited to share the rest of my pregnancy journey with you. As I’m sure you’ve witnessed–those of you who’ve stuck with me over the years–both this blog and I have gone through a lot of changes. Being a mother will be the biggest change and challenge of them all.

I recognize that being on television and sharing my opinion on the blog in no way makes me an expert. But sharing is who I am, and I’m so excited to finally be able to open up this part of my life that I’ve had to keep secret.

One of the hardest things I experienced after deciding to taking part in Newlyweds was the silence: I was suddenly contractually obligated to keep some of the biggest parts of my life a secret. I had to hide my pregnancy. (SO DIFFICULT.) I had to pretend like everything was normal–while still dropping hints in the desperate hope that somebody would see through the lines and understand the sudden damn-near radio silence.

It means so much to me to finally be able to let you in. There are still a few weeks left, so obviously I’m having to dole it out week by week, but I cannot wait to continue the conversation–no holds barred–in the weeks to come. We’re almost at the finish line, in more ways than one.

xoxo,

Love, Nadine

 

 

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Newlyweds: Episode 5 (My First Trimester!) http://www.nadinejoliecourtney.com/2015/04/newlyweds-episode-5-my-first-trimester/ http://www.nadinejoliecourtney.com/2015/04/newlyweds-episode-5-my-first-trimester/#comments Wed, 08 Apr 2015 05:03:08 +0000 http://www.nadinejoliecourtney.com/?p=13581 For as long as I can remember, I’ve been terrified of pregnancy.

I’m a squeamish person: the type who faints when getting blood drawn and needs somebody to hold my hand during shots. The idea of having a person growing inside me–pushing my organs aside and piggybacking off my blood and life force–completely freaked me out. I’d make jokes about parasites and aliens (and Alien) and mean it.

But then I got pregnant…and I was stunned to realize that I LOVED it.

Nadine Jolie Courtney pregnant

I assumed I’d have swollen feet. I assumed I would be running to the bathroom seventy-five times a minute. I assumed it would be difficult to sleep.

All of these assumptions were true.

Even worse, my skin started breaking out. I had constipation like nobody’s business. I was EXHAUSTED. My hormones exploded. (You thought I had a hair-trigger temper before? Hoo-boy!)

And yet, I still loved it.

Metamucil

Metamucil: my nightly “cocktail”

Those early days, when I’d put my hand on my belly and know that there was a little life inside…when I’d look in the mirror and see the tiny bump growing and growing…when I’d think about my child and what we would call him or her and daydream about what their life would look like…

Is there anything more magical?

Baby books

Plus, obviously, our baby was going to be a genius. But just in case, I needed to buy every baby book, ever.

This isn’t too much, right?

Nadine Jolie Courtney pregnant

Missing from this pile: Bringing Up Bebe, but since I’ve already read it about three times, I lent it to a friend. (I expect it back!)

 

I know that reading tons of books is no substitute for real-life experience…and I know that Erik and I have a LONG way to go and so very much to learn.

Check out an extended clip of our first ultrasound with our awesome OB/GYN Dr. Shamsah Amersi (if you’re in Santa Monica, she’s the best!), here on the Bravo website.

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A little realness about being capital-B “Busy” (plus a video on my recent Europe trip) http://www.nadinejoliecourtney.com/2015/04/a-little-realness-about-being-capital-b-busy/ http://www.nadinejoliecourtney.com/2015/04/a-little-realness-about-being-capital-b-busy/#comments Thu, 02 Apr 2015 20:39:37 +0000 http://www.nadinejoliecourtney.com/?p=13577 So after yesterday’s post and big announcement, I know some of you are finally cottoning on to why life has been so different for me recently and why the blog posts went from daily to weekly late last year.

Let’s just say it’s been busy. And no, not the self-imposed, “OMG, you guys, I’m totally so busy! LOL!” that you normally hear people whine/brag about. Busy in an “I’ve been taking as many non-essential things off my plate as possible, but there is still not enough time in the day, week, or month because I have a book due while everything else is going on, and that’s just my life now, and holy hell is it hard, but I am soldiering on and doing my best” kind of way.

Not a badge of honor signaling how important I am. Not a point of pride implying that I am superwoman. Just juggling, treading water, trying not to screw up the few things that must be done.

You dig?

As I say on my About page, I am TERRIBLE at follow-through. It’s one of my worst qualities, and certain the type of issue you do not want to have as a blogger, where regular content and readers being able to trust you is the difference between fan and frustration. I’ve gotten better at it over the years, mostly because of responsibilities like having a book deal (if you don’t set small, achievable daily goals, you’re left at the 11th hour with, say, 100 words to write in 6 days. Yeah, no thanks.) But I still have so much room to grow. The blog has often kept me in check, but of course my output and creativity was dwindling even before all of last year’s new developments. I’ve kept you guys in the loop over my frustrations, and I’ve finally mostly made peace with it, but I’m excited for when the show is over and I don’t have any restrictions left regarding sharing.

Last week, I had a break. I was invited on a press trip to Austria, to Viva Mayr Altaussee. It’s the brand-new sister spa to the place I visited a couple of years ago, Viva Mayr, which changed my life. Naturally, I thought, “Well, there’s no way in hell I’ll be able to go,” and I forgot about it, only mentioning it off-handedly to Erik a few days later.

“You must go,” he said.

“But, but…all the stuff…”

“Go. You’ll be able to write. I’ll manage.”

And so I went.

I was in London for two days, seeing family and friends, and then went to the spa itself an hour outside Salzburg. (When I realized that I was about an hour away from The Sound of Music tour–on the fiftieth anniversary of the film’s release, no less–I was so bummed. But c’est la vie.)

I was there to write with no distractions, and write is what I did: 35 pages of Wisteria in 5 days. The book is due May 1st and thanks to my writing break, the finish line is finally in sight. The trip was transformative and one that most people in my shoes apparently wouldn’t have taken. But that’s a whole ‘nother conversation for later. I can’t wait for the conversations we’re going to have down the line, you and me.

A few months back, I set myself a realistic goal of filming, editing and posting one YouTube video a week, putting it live every Monday. I missed last week’s deadline because of the trip, but here it is now, a little snippet of my time in London and Austria: it’s short and sweet, and not as thorough as I’d like, but it’s done. And as I have to remind myself in the new land of Reluctantly Busy, sometimes done is better than perfect.

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Newlyweds: Episode 4 (Surprise: I’m Pregnant!) http://www.nadinejoliecourtney.com/2015/03/surprise-im-pregnant/ http://www.nadinejoliecourtney.com/2015/03/surprise-im-pregnant/#comments Wed, 01 Apr 2015 06:34:01 +0000 http://www.nadinejoliecourtney.com/?p=13574 The cat’s out of the bag! (Are you guys surprised? I feel like it was the worst kept secret ever. Seriously, this took Herculanean efforts. SO MUCH TO TELL YOU.)

When Erik and I found out we were pregnant, it was like everything in our lives had been leading to that moment. Even though we’d only been together for 11 months, it felt so perfect. We’re not ones to do things by half-measures, and we both wanted to be young(ish) parents but were up against the clock. I was 33, he was 40. We’re hardly geriatrics, but we’re no spring chickens, either.

A lot of people said: What’s the rush? Why hurry? (Those are the same people that didn’t understand us going to Japan on our third date…getting engaged after 3 months…getting married so quickly…)

If you’ve been wandering through your life in blurry black and white, when things suddenly shift into focus color, you don’t question it. You run with it.

I cannot wait to keep you guys updated–finally, FINALLY–on our pregnancy journey. (I just used the word “journey.” Can I have a handful of red roses now?)

And, PS: we were the #4 story on USWeekly.com tonight and were trending worldwide on the west coast Twitter feed: yay!

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NJC Hall of Fame: The beautyblender http://www.nadinejoliecourtney.com/2015/03/njc-hall-of-fame-the-beautyblender/ http://www.nadinejoliecourtney.com/2015/03/njc-hall-of-fame-the-beautyblender/#comments Tue, 31 Mar 2015 00:08:38 +0000 http://www.nadinejoliecourtney.com/?p=13571 There are very, very few beauty products that “wow” me—but when I discovered the beautyblender, it literally changed my beauty life.

First, a little background. I’ve had ruddy skin requiring foundation my entire life. Ever since I was 12, I’ve been cursed with a red Rudolph nose, not to mention acne-prone skin that easily breaks out, leaving behind red splotches long after the zits have faded. Getting a better handle on my skincare over the years has dramatically helped—to the point where, now in my 30s, I feel confident going out into the world without foundation. (I’m talking about going to the grocery store, not hitting up, say, a beauty event. Let’s not go crazy.)

Despite learning how to deal with my skin so that breakouts were rare, I still hadn’t been able to venture into the waters of BB creams or tinted moisturizer. They’re always too thin, too flimsy, too “what’s the point?” for my redness. On the other end of the spectrum? Full-face foundation? Surely you jest! (It cakes on my nose, feels like paint, and leads to—you guessed it—breakouts.)

The only thing I’ve been able to wear for years has been mineral powder foundation. I used to love it, but after more than a decade of zero variety, I’d started to crave greener pastures, looking longingly at the shiny new offerings from all the beauty companies and grumbling in frustration that none of them were for me. Oh, foundation—I hardly knew ye.

Until, that is, I met the beautyblender.

I’d seen it around for years, but didn’t give it much thought. After all, it’s just a glorified $20 makeup sponge, right? How amazing could it really be?

AMAZING.

Read more of my review here at BeautyBlender.com.

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How to Transform Your Beauty Routine from Winter to Spring http://www.nadinejoliecourtney.com/2015/03/how-to-transform-your-beauty-routine-from-winter-to-spring/ http://www.nadinejoliecourtney.com/2015/03/how-to-transform-your-beauty-routine-from-winter-to-spring/#comments Thu, 26 Mar 2015 11:00:11 +0000 http://www.nadinejoliecourtney.com/?p=13562 Your winter beauty routine is really all about survival: keeping yourself covered, protected, and hydrated while battling harsh elements, freezing temps outdoors and moisture-sapping heaters indoors. As the flowers bloom, sun shines, and temperatures rise, however, your beauty routine has to evolve along with them.

Here, we take a look at the most practical tips for transitioning your beauty routine from winter to spring, from head to toe!

Read more of my piece on SheKnows.com!

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Newlyweds: Episode 3 (My Favorite Earplugs and 40 Chews) http://www.nadinejoliecourtney.com/2015/03/newlyweds-episode-3-all-about-my-favorite-earplugs-and-chewing-food-40-times/ http://www.nadinejoliecourtney.com/2015/03/newlyweds-episode-3-all-about-my-favorite-earplugs-and-chewing-food-40-times/#comments Wed, 25 Mar 2015 13:53:52 +0000 http://www.nadinejoliecourtney.com/?p=13553 If you watched last night’s episode, you saw another reason why I’m a giant weirdo (we like to call it “quirky” ’round these parts), specifically: my habit of chewing food 40 times to digest it properly. It stemmed from my trip a couple of years back to Viva Mayr, that Austrian med spa I blogged about here and here and wrote about for Fox News. (Plum Sykes wrote a hilarious piece on them for Vogue, too.)

NJC Austria

Well, I’m back in the land of Viva, this time at their brand-new, not-even-open-to-the-public-yet sister spa called Viva Altaussee. I’m writing about it for some awesome outlets, so you’ll be hearing more from me on the Altaussee front soon. Suffice it to say: I am using the Austrian spa getaway as a writers’ retreat and trying to get as much done on Wisteria as possible. T-minus 6 weeks until it’s due!

Viva Mayr Altaussee Austria med clinic

But back to the episode.

Phew. So, I’ve got a hair-trigger temper, huh?

Erik and I bicker like most married couples–which is to say, constantly, and about the silliest things. I didn’t realize until watching this week’s episode, however, how quick I am to snap at him. It was a genuine eye-opener for me.

Of course, you’re seeing things as they were over a year ago–and despite what some in the Twitterverse/Facebookland seem to think, I actually do try to be a good person and to learn and grow. I can’t remember a lot of what we filmed, so it’s an interesting thing each week, reliving what we got up to back in the day. I’m hoping you get to see a bit more of my supportive side as the show continues!

I’ve received many questions wondering which brand of earplugs I was talking about. They’re called Mack’s Pillow Soft Silicone Earplugs, and I am stand-outside-their-balcony-in-the-rain-shouting-their-name obsessed with them. Unfortunately, they don’t drown out everything, so if your partner snores like a chain-saw, you’ll still hear it. But they muffle noise significantly: way better than those crappy foam earplugs. (I mean, you might as well ball up pieces of tissue and stick them in your ears. Which I’ve totally done, by the way.)

Macks Pillow Soft earplugs

Finally, as you saw at the end of the episode, I had a minor pregnancy scare. (TBH, it really wasn’t much of a scare, since I was on the pill–hence Erik saying it would be a miracle–and was pretty sure it was just my migraines.) Taking the test got me thinking about whether I did want kids, however…which is something I’ve been waffling back and forth on for years now.

When Erik and I met, I was more firmly in the “kids are great, but not for me” camp. I love my career, traveling, my social life, nine hours of sleep, what have you. But each day I spent with Erik cemented my certainty that he’d make a wonderful father…and that maybe, just, maybe, our family wasn’t complete with just the two of us.

The test was negative, as you saw, but from that point on, I realized I was ready.

Watch this space!

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Newlyweds: Episode 2 & Honeymoon Photos http://www.nadinejoliecourtney.com/2015/03/newlyweds-episode-2-honeymoon-photos/ http://www.nadinejoliecourtney.com/2015/03/newlyweds-episode-2-honeymoon-photos/#comments Wed, 18 Mar 2015 06:41:40 +0000 http://www.nadinejoliecourtney.com/?p=13488 Erik and I have very different travel styles. He’s all about lists, plans, and itineraries, and I like to go with the flow. He wants to wake up early to pack AS MUCH AS HUMANLY POSSIBLE into each day. Meanwhile, if I’m awake before 11 am, the day is already a failure (or I clearly didn’t have enough fun the night before).

When we were planning our honeymoon, we knew two things: we wanted it to be long, and we wanted it to be epic.

One of those choices was a very big mistake.

Going to Hong Kong, New Zealand, and Australia all but guarantees the epic part. I worked with the tourism boards to put together some next-level awesome experiences–not to mention, did a lot of good old-fashioned planning, researching, and booking myself–which meant we spent the trip doing things like climbing the Harbour Bridge and celebrating New Year’s Eve at the Opera House in Sydney, riding a junk boat under the stars and Hong Kong skyline in the middle of Victoria Harbour or eating pork buns at the world’s cheapest Michelin-starred restaurant Tim Ho Wan, and climbing around Hobbit holes and exploring the Waitomo glowworm caves in New Zealand.

However, one month is a long time to be away from home, even under the most ideal of circumstances–and by the end of the trip, we felt like we’d been on honeymoon for a year.

Did I mentioned we’d only been dating 8 months by that point…and were already married? Oh, and had cameras following our every move?

Voila! Drama, served on a platter!

When Erik and I saw the episode and our fight at the Big Buddha, we alternated between laughing and groaning. On the one hand, it was entertaining to rewatch and remember how irritated we were with each other that day. (Read all the backstory here on BravoTV.com.) On the other hand, as I also say in the blog post: if you get into a fight at a gorgeous temple in Hong Kong, you’re an asshole.

Here are some more behind-the-scenes photos from our honeymoon!

HONG KONG

 

Hong Kong Cathay Pacific

Erik Courtney Cathay Pacific Hong Kong

Cathay Pacific Business Class

I’ve been lucky enough to fly International Business Class a couple of times, and Cathay Pacific Business Class smoked them all.

Erik and Nadine honeymoon Hong Kong 2

Hong Kong view 2

Hong Kong night harbour

Hong Kong junk boat 2

That VIEW. I’d been dreaming of Hong Kong for years because I was dying to see the famous Hong Kong skyline. For the best views, take the tram to the top of Victoria Peak during the day, and then ride a junk boat through the harbour at night.

Hong Kong chef

Food at Bo Innovation, helmed by three Michelin-starred chef Alvin Leung.

Hong Kong horseracing

A day at the races! Sha Tin and Happy Valley Racecourses are two of the most famous in the world.

Hong Kong snake soup

Snake soup: eek!

Hong Kong street

Sams Tailor honeymoon

Hong Kong Big Buddha

Hong Kong statues 2

Hong Kong statues

Hong Kong dragon

Temple Hong Kong

Hong Kong has so many must-visit temples, including Sik Sik Yuen Wong, Chi Lin Nunnery, and of course the Big Buddha.

Sevva 2 Hong Kong

Sevva Hong Kong 2

Sevva Hong Kong

One of my favorite afternoons in Hong Kong was spent at Sevva, a beautiful art-inspired restaurant and bar in the Princes Building. We had afternoon tea and champagne and ate delicious cakes while overlooking the city skyline.

Hong Kong Discovery Bay

AUSTRALIA

QT hotel stairway

QT hotel hallway

QT hotel room

QT Hotel

The QT Hotel

Kangaroo Island windblown in wild

kangaroos

Kangaroo island binoculars

seals on kangaroo island

Kangaroo Island

 

Qualia sunset

Erik Qualia

Koalas

At Qualia, off Hamilton Island

NEW ZEALAND

Hells Gate

Queenstown Below Zero

Gollum

Gunpowder rum

Wellington cocktails

Wellington

To see more from our honeymoon, click here!

And here are more photos on our Facebook page.

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Shake It Off: Live Tweeting With Internet Haters http://www.nadinejoliecourtney.com/2015/03/shake-it-off-live-tweeting-with-internet-haters/ http://www.nadinejoliecourtney.com/2015/03/shake-it-off-live-tweeting-with-internet-haters/#comments Wed, 18 Mar 2015 06:17:01 +0000 http://www.nadinejoliecourtney.com/?p=13545 I’ve spent the majority of my post-college life on the internet. I’ve made a career of being somewhat in the public eye, baring my soul, and telling people how it really is. At times, it cost me my jobs, my mentors, and yes, even some friendships. But those of you who have known me for a while know that oversharing is just a part of who I am.

It’s no secret that when you watch a reality show like Newlyweds, there are going to be things that make it and things that end up on the cutting room floor. I’ve often explained to my friends that Erik and I have understood the deal: the interesting stuff is what they’re going to focus on.

Unfortunately, the interesting stuff often isn’t the flattering stuff…and if what you saw on TV tonight was all you knew about me, you might not think I’m a very nice person. And if you were tweeting the show? HOLY MOLY. The Twitterverse was not feeling me tonight.

I could lie and shrug and brush it off, but the truth is: it hurt my feelings. I am, indeed, neurotic. I am, like most people, less than angelic at times. There are times when I lose my cool, embarrass myself, and behave in a way that isn’t me being the best person I can be. But I was also insulted like people were getting paid for it. In reality, I’m a sensitive, dorky person, and the reason I became a writer is because I have trouble communicating at times: it’s much easier to write and compose your thoughts. And you can’t stutter or speak too fast in a blog post.

I’ve grown a lot in my first year of marriage with Erik.

I wrote back in 2013 about my marriage fears and whether I was even the marrying type. Part of what I was wondering in that blog post was: who would put up with me and want to live with me forever? Those fears were tapped into by negative tweets: this girl is neurotic, angry, complains way too much…and what poor sap would put up with that relationship. Lord knows I’m not perfect! But I’m also loving, supportive, sensitive, and kind–and Erik knows that.

When Erik and I went on our first date, one of the things that brought us the closest was how we both felt so different from everybody else. We often felt like aliens, trying to explain to our fellow aliens what it’s like to be human.

I had never met somebody who got that part of my soul before and didn’t just understand it but accepted it. Erik understands it innately. He accepts me fully. I’ve embraced the things about Erik that he’s felt judged for by others. I worship him and feel so lucky to be by his side. That’s why we’re perfect for each other.

Tonight also made us think, however, about all the times we tear people to shreds while watching, say, The Bachelor. We’re not mindful of the fact that they’re actually people: they’re thrown in the category of “reality TV characters” and therefore “lesser” (although still very much fit for our gleeful consumption).

When Erik and I signed up to take part, our friends warned us that we were opening ourselves up to negativity. Tonight was our first taste of it, and it sucked! But we’re happy and we’re healthy and we try to be good people and we have each other, so…

On with the show.

 

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Watch Erik and Me on the Steve Harvey Show! http://www.nadinejoliecourtney.com/2015/03/watch-erik-and-me-on-the-steve-harvey-show/ http://www.nadinejoliecourtney.com/2015/03/watch-erik-and-me-on-the-steve-harvey-show/#comments Tue, 17 Mar 2015 11:00:20 +0000 http://www.nadinejoliecourtney.com/?p=13482 Remember how Erik and I went to Chicago two weeks ago? I can finally reveal the real reason for the trip: we were flown out as guests on the Steve Harvey Show!

Our episode airs this afternoon, so tune in, and be sure to let me know what you think on Twitter @NadineCourtney.

Erik and Nadine from Newlyweds on Bravo on the Steve Harvey show

And don’t forget to watch tonight’s episode of Newlyweds, which takes you behind the scenes of our honeymoon in Hong Kong, Australia, and New Zealand.

Erik and Nadine from Newlyweds on Bravo on the Steve Harvey show

So. Much. Drama.

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New Video: #DearMe http://www.nadinejoliecourtney.com/2015/03/new-video-dearme/ http://www.nadinejoliecourtney.com/2015/03/new-video-dearme/#comments Mon, 16 Mar 2015 21:05:03 +0000 http://www.nadinejoliecourtney.com/?p=13479 If you could go back in time and give advice to your younger self, what would you say? Here, 5 pieces of advice I wish I’d known…

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Our Interview on BravoTV.com http://www.nadinejoliecourtney.com/2015/03/our-interview-on-bravotv-com/ http://www.nadinejoliecourtney.com/2015/03/our-interview-on-bravotv-com/#comments Thu, 12 Mar 2015 11:00:37 +0000 http://www.nadinejoliecourtney.com/?p=13465 We talk the proposal, our second wedding in Dallas, wedding-day nerves, and our favorite memories of the big day.

Here’s a little excerpt:

NJC: Hands down, I was most nervous about meeting Erik’s mom Sister Brigid. It’s not every day that you meet a nun, and I wasn’t quite sure what to talk to her about. (Our conversation was definitely a little awkward at first!) I just wanted her to like me and to make Erik feel proud. Luckily, she is the sweetest woman on the planet and she’s pretty much a dream mother-in-law. I was sad on the big day not having my own mother Nancy by my side, but I felt like she was there with me in spirit. I was also nervous about the little things: would I trip walking down the aisle? Would I get totally overwhelmed with emotion and smear mascara everywhere at the altar? (You dream of being that perfect, magazine-cover bride, but alas that’s just not me!) I was especially freaked out that I might spill wine on my dress. We actually had a second wedding later in Dallas for my huge family (since my grandmother is too old to travel), and I was terrified of ruining the dress!! The ceremony went off without a hitch, though. Erik and I wrote our own vows, the sun was setting behind us right as we said “I do,” and celebrating with all our friends was a blast.

Check out the full interview here!

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Photos from our wedding! http://www.nadinejoliecourtney.com/2015/03/photos-from-our-wedding/ http://www.nadinejoliecourtney.com/2015/03/photos-from-our-wedding/#comments Wed, 11 Mar 2015 22:22:49 +0000 http://www.nadinejoliecourtney.com/?p=13460 Continue Reading]]> I’ve been waiting FOREVER to share these with you guys!

We got married at the Montecito Country Club, which is just a couple of miles from where I went to boarding school. Once we saw the giant picture window overlooking the Pacific Ocean, the venus was a lock.

Nadine and Erik wedding Montecito Country Club

My dress was Monique Lhuillier. My ONLY criteria for a wedding dress was that I didn’t want something strapless. Funnily enough, the dress I picked was strapless–but we added lace cap sleeves.

Nadine Jolie Courtney Newlyweds Monique Lhuillier wedding dress

I wanted to do my own makeup – it was so important to me that I looked and felt like myself on my wedding day.

Nadine Jolie Courtney makeup

My hair was done by celebrity hairstylist Mitch Stone, and I absolutely adored it. He did a great job, no?

Nadine Jolie Courtney wedding

Bliss and Bone created our wedding invitations, our wedding website, and all our wedding collateral. Love, love, LOVE their stuff!

Bliss and Bone Nadine Jolie Courtney Newlyweds wedding invitations

We had two weddings: this one in Santa Barbara, and a second one in Dallas. My grandmother is too old to travel, and the majority of my aunts, uncles, and cousins live in the Dallas suburbs. Meanwhile, all of my friends are in LA and Santa Barbara is only a 90 minute drive. So, we made the expensive but ultimately more practical decision to have two weddings: one for (mostly) family, and one for (mostly) friends. Sadly, the Dallas wedding wasn’t featured on TV, but I’ll be doing a post on it, too!

Erik and Nadine Newlyweds dinner

Nadine and Erik Newlyweds wedding bouquet toss

Erik and Nadine Newlyweds wedding cake

Erik and Nadine Newlyweds

See over 150 more photos from our Montecito wedding on our Erik and Nadine FB page.

Thanks to our photographer Miguel Fairbanks for all the wonderful shots!

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Just a little reminder… http://www.nadinejoliecourtney.com/2015/03/just-a-little-reminder/ http://www.nadinejoliecourtney.com/2015/03/just-a-little-reminder/#comments Tue, 10 Mar 2015 11:00:21 +0000 http://www.nadinejoliecourtney.com/?p=13457 Our show Newlyweds: The First Year premieres tonight on Bravo at 10pm EST!

Erik and I will be live-tweeting with my beauty friends, so come play along on Twitter. The show hashtag is #Newlyweds; our couple hashtag is #ErikandNadine; and you can tag us at @NadineCourtney and @ErikCourtney.

Hope you watch, hope you love it, and come say hi on Twitter!

xoxo,
Nadine

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